I read this article the other day. It was titled 10 Things I Learned When I Stopped Yelling at My Kids. I admit I do yell at my kids sometimes. There are times I feel it's the only way to get there attention over all the noise! I really try not to yell but none of us are perfect, right? When I do get upset I go to bed the same way she describes. I feel like I failed for the day. I feel like I need to do better.
Tonight at bedtime I had an experience and it reminded me of #6 on the list:
By yelling you might miss out on life-changing moments.
The boys were up in bed and Ciaran came downstairs. Normally, I would have said "Go back to bed. You know you are supposed to be asleep." Ciaran is known for his stall tactics at bedtime. Tonight, I didn't tell him to go back to bed. I simply asked him what he wanted. And you know what he said? "Mom, you know that book I am reading? (He started a book yesterday and is super interested in it. He even brought it out to dinner and read it in a restaurant tonight) Can you please find me more books like that? If I had books like that I would read them all the time" I nearly cried. I leaned down and kissed him and told him I was so proud of him. I told him when he went to sleep I would look up the author on the computer and find him more books! He went right upstairs and went to bed. I would have missed that moment if I had just responded with my normal "Go back to bed"
Honestly. I have been trying forever to get that boy to enjoy reading. He always says he doesn't like to read. Reading didn't come easy for Ciaran. He had to work a lot harder than Cormac and Colin to learn to read. He compared himself to his brothers and when he realized he wasn't reading like them it was difficult for him to enjoy it.
When I go to bed tonight I will rest easy knowing I truly listened to something very important Ciaran had to tell me. I am glad I didn't think it was his usual delay of game. I already looked up the author and found seller on Ebay selling a collection of his books! I can't wait until they arrive!
Here he is drinking chocolate milk and reading his book at the restaurant.